Keith L. Cooper helping kids
Volunteering at an Orphanage in Haiti

Threes to Fours

As I navigated to become a better person, I decided to document my transition using the change from three words to four words.

The Threes The Fours
I don’t know I can do better
I was wrong I will do better
I am sorry I want your feedback
Let’s move on Here’s what I need
You are important Can you teach me?
I love you It’s important to me
I need help I disagree, let’s talk
I will improve
Can you help
I am listening
I am listening

In my many, many years of being what I thought was a good lover, a good father, a good leader, a good husband, and a good friend—all these years of not being genuine, not working on myself—at no time did I seek self-improvement, and my vocabulary was absent of the threes to the fours. Now, my vocabulary consists primarily of the threes and the fours.

But the consequences are dire.

As I sit at home, looking at the beauty of Grand County, the greatness of the landscape, the silence, and the peace, I’d give it all up just to say “I was wrong” to those I have wronged; “I am sorry” to those I have hurt; and “I love you” to those I have loved. I missed my opportunity. Don’t miss yours. Follow the threes and take them to the fours.

  • Take a minute and put your version of threes to fours together. What are you going to do to change?
  • Which of my threes give you the most difficulty? The most inspiration? How about the fours? Why?